This could not have been a better blog topic for me. Whenever I am annoyed by something I always tell me sister, “THAT IS MY BIGGEST PET PEEVE!” knowing she’s probably taking note. I think the category that most of mine seem to fall under is respect. I was brought up very “traditional”, I guess you could call it. Always being told to say “thank you” when someone does something for you, and “you’re welcome” when someone tells you “thank you”, so for someone to not acknowledge that simple courtesy rule is just pathetic to me. How hard is it to say those two little words that go such a long way? Another simple, short, two-worded phrase that people seem to think is so hard to say is “excuse me”. Whenever I get mad about it and tell my mom, she always brings it back to the fact that, “well Kathleen, not everyone was raised the same”. I just seem to think that everyone was and that politeness is a virtue that most possess. Wrong. Another would be when people don’t say “I’m sorry” or admit to being wrong. Just go ahead and admit that you’ve done something wrong or that you weren’t right, and move on. Everyone makes mistakes; it’s what makes us human. Usually someone will respect and like you more when you do.
On the same topic as respect but zoning in on friends in particular, I hate when you get taken advantage of; either by friends or not so much your friends. No one likes to feel used. It’s a form of lying that can really damage a person and come back to haunt them. What goes around comes around, and I am a firm believer in karma. When someone does something for you and continues to do things for you, expecting it all in return and then for you not to do the same for them when the time comes, is another major one to me. Also, when they say that they’re going to do something or you make plans with them and they never follow through and always cancel. It’s fine if they don’t follow through once or twice but if it’s every time then it becomes a problem and a game of cry wolf. I don’t know when you’re being serious and if you’re ever telling the truth. If you can’t do something and know you wont be able to, then just say it instead of promising that you can and then not.
And the last one, still along the lines of respect, is cleaning up after yourself. Since I’ve come to college, and still with living at home, you should always pick up after yourself and not make others do it for you. Granted, I leave things out a lot, but the thing is, I always have the intention of coming back and cleaning it up myself. But to just leave it out and either not want to put it up or forget about it is beyond annoying. One of my roommates now is very bad about this. She always leaves her cooking utensils out, condiments out, and dishes on the table after she makes dinner for her and her boyfriend. After eating it’s like she doesn’t even think about putting it all away, instead just wallers on the couch with her boyfriend, usually leaving the mess for me and my sister.
I suppose my main issue is with people not treating people equally and not reciprocating good deeds back to those who have. Having manners and respecting one another are two very important qualities to me and wish they were to everyone else, but the obvious and unfortunate truth is, is that they are not.
